Showing posts from August, 2018

Focus: Watch What You Give Power

If you had to pick one thing what would you say is your top distraction? That one thing that can get your attention quickly & keep it strongly?

Would it be a television series like Game of Thrones? An app...let’s say Instagram? What about something that's been around forever like gossip? Regardless of what it is I believe most of us can say that distractions can be more powerful than we realize.

For my college alum think back to midterms or finals. It's the night before one of your tests & you’re studying with some of your friends. Next thing you know, a conversation comes up about someone’s fight or breakup. Before you know it, three hours had went by & you’d lost time to study. It's the same way in life.

We can be preparing for a life test or attempting to reach a specific goal. Then someone or something from the past pops back up bringing old mess and trying to create new mess.

At that time we have two choices: feed into the foolishness or press towards our …

Learning: How To Face a "Re-Test"

In life you get many things. As I touched on last week in my blog post on relationships, anything that you do will have an effect and bring forth something else. Along with that, one learns lessons.

Some may admit it quicker than others, but all of that allows us to learn things about life, and as time goes on we train ourselves to accept them. However, how do we accept a lesson being revisited?

I don't know about you, but I'm not a big fan of it. It's like having to retake a test that I thought my teacher would have a pass on, or for my love birds it's like an ex that you thought you'd never see popping up saying, “I miss you.”

It can truly shake you. From the surprise to the recognition and sometimes the aggravation, various things might go through your mind.

I myself have had this happen to me in different ways. Tests have popped back up personally, academically,  romantically (whatever you want to deem that with me), and even spiritually. Once all the thoughts …

Relationships: Cause and Effect

In our world, there is always something that has an effect or influence on something else. Some call it “cause and effect”. Others call it the “domino effect”. At the end of the day, everything has a pull on something else.

Now, it took me time and experiences to learn this. From my having a rough morning leading to me going off on a classmate to my not studying regularly resulting to having to cram for a test the night before, various small things in my life showed me this.

However, the greatest thing that proved this to me was witnessing connections I had with others affect other relationships in my life.

My having issues with and disrespecting my mom lead to others not wanting to deal with me. My not being on the best terms with my father led me to thirst, and I do me thirst, for a boyfriend.

I wanted to have a “man” so bad a guy smiling at me made me wonder if he’d be the one. It is only the grace of God that I still have my virtue.

The funniest thing is, as much as these situatio…

Temptation: Not More Than You Can Bare

You know, when you grow up in church you see a lot of stuff frequently. From choirs singing to people passing around offering plates to even children scribbling on paper. You just become used to seeing some stuff.

You get used to hearing stuff too, like scriptures. Yeah, there are definitely some verses that you hear on a regular from, “For God so loved the world…,” (John 3:16) to, “Trust in the Lord with all thine heart…,” (Proverbs 3:5 - 6) to even “The Lord is my shepherd…” (Psalm 23:1)

One in particular that I continue to hear frequently is 1 Corinthians 10:13, which is the inspiration for the phrase, “He won't put more on you than you can bare.”

Now when you look at that scripture, even though it does not exactly say the phrase above, it hits a few different areas that truly will blow your mind.

First off, it begins with, “The temptations in your life are no different from what others experience…,” (1 Corinthians 10:13a)

When you just think on that thing...The fact that regar…

Forgiveness: Break Every Chain

In life, various things happen. Some of it is good & some of it is bad, and of course it is all tied to someone’s decision. From mistakes to victories, life is full of cause-and-effect, and these events and struggles can leave chains on us that can truly take control.

I'll use myself for example. Due to various things that people I trusted & looked up to had done & the effect that it had on me I became very bitter. Even though I claimed to follow God I struggled with one of His most well-known commands.

This lead to chains of frustration, low self-esteem, dishonor, & the list went on and on.

It was not until about 3 years ago that I truly began to break those chains with three steps: acknowledgement, understanding, and humility.

First off, I had to be honest about the fact that these things were still bothering me.

You know how it is. You start telling yourself that it does not matter and they are nothing. Then you start talking about it to other people, telling th…