Forgiveness: Break Every Chain

In life, various things happen. Some of it is good & some of it is bad, and of course it is all tied to someone’s decision. From mistakes to victories, life is full of cause-and-effect, and these events and struggles can leave chains on us that can truly take control.

I'll use myself for example. Due to various things that people I trusted & looked up to had done & the effect that it had on me I became very bitter. Even though I claimed to follow God I struggled with one of His most well-known commands.

This lead to chains of frustration, low self-esteem, dishonor, & the list went on and on.

It was not until about 3 years ago that I truly began to break those chains with three steps: acknowledgement, understanding, and humility.

First off, I had to be honest about the fact that these things were still bothering me.

You know how it is. You start telling yourself that it does not matter and they are nothing. Then you start talking about it to other people, telling them about your sorrows. Next thing you know if the person walks in the room the whole mood changes.

Before you know it the person that hurt you the most has you in the palm of their hand.

That is why my touching on this was not only freeing, but necessary.

Next, I had to put my pride aside and realize that no one is perfect. We all make mistakes purposefully and accidentally, & no matter how angry I got that fact was not going to go away.

Finally, I had to take a shot of humility because in the end my issue truly was not with them. It was with God.

Now, I know you're probably looking at your screen right now wondering what I'm talking about, & I understand your shock. So, let me break it down like my spiritual family & the book, Total Forgiveness by R.T. Kendall, broke it down to me.

When we're angry at someone else we feel that our frustration is with them. However, in the end we are really taking up issue with the person who's truly in control.

For instance, when a restaurant has a product you love & they raise the price you may show frustration to the cashier, but your issue is really with the franchise owner.

In life, even though we all make our own decisions, God is in control. So, our anger with others honestly is rooted in an ought against the Almighty God.

Things such as this showed me that I was not truly walking in what I proclaimed to believe. I was ignoring scriptures such as, “Make allowance for each other’s faults, and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others," Colossians‬ ‭3:13‬, ‭NLT‬‬) as if I knew better.

I was not considering the fact that the same way they made mistakes so do I. All I wanted was for them to pay.

I didn’t think about the fact that if we all paid for all of the errors we made would any of us be able to afford the price…

In the end, my striving to let go of the past pressed me to move forth, and even though we may feel it is not easy it is definitely worth it.

So, I ask you, do you want to hang on to something & stay bound or let it go & become free. You have to decide if you want to unlock those chains and forgiveness is the key.

Comments

  1. Exactlyyy! I usually say i don't care about what someone did to me but i find myself telling everyone that cross my path about what horrible thing they did. its best to admit you care that they hurt you, vent about it for a while and let it go.

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  2. Ugh. I hang on to so much all the time! I really needed to read this! Great timing for me

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  3. Couldn't have said it better. Happiness comes from learning to let go, not hanging on to everything.

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  4. Great time for me to read it as well. We often know the theories but it is never easy.


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  5. I'm a sentimentalist, so I feel. It is indeed hard to move on and let go of the past. But it is something one needs to do otherwise, there's no growth and eventually negativity creeps in.

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  6. Forgiveness is one of the hardest things to do. It's especially tough when the person you're forgiving is yourself...

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  7. I really can't think of anything I'm hanging on to. I try to let God lead me and I'm always moving forward.

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    1. That's a good place to be. Continue to allow yourself to move in that.

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  8. So true! I know I'm still holding on to some things, but I try to let it go little by little. It's natural to feel hurt, betrayed, and bitter, but it's always best to work through those feelings and let them go.

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    1. Exactly. That's why the supernatural is necessary for the forgiveness to take place.

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  9. It's important to let go of the past in order to move on.

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    1. Definitely. Forgiveness & forward movement go hand in hand.

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  10. This is very authentic. I love what you've shared here. I went through my own process of forgiveness and healing from bitterness and it was 100% grace, nothing I did. Living free is absolutely worth the hard process of forgiveness though. <3 Thanks for sharing!

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  11. I love your post, it hits home right now for me. Being honest about the fact that these things were still bothering me is important. I try to just brush things off and act like they don't matter, but they do. Acknowledgement is the first step to being able to let it go.

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  12. Forgiveness is the way for the new beginning. Acceptance makes you feel better because that thing called love! don't hold any grudges. I have a poem for forgiveness :) just check my blog if you a have time :)

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  13. Can’t agree with you more. Forgiveness holds us back from embracing and truly thinking I lied. For me, it is best to forgive and release not simply the other person but myself. It is a practice that deepens my spiritual life and helps me grow.

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  14. I know sometimes it's hard letting go of the past. But one way or another, you'd have to let go. Forgiveness is the only way you can do to move forward.

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  15. Often I remind myself that I don't forgive for them, I forgive for myself.

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  16. Congrats on stepping back and acknowledging. It's always hard to look at something with an outside perspective. I've found it's in those moments when we realize the positive intention of the situation. Is that what you found?

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    1. I realized the purpose of the situation. Sometimes for growth to take place there must be discomfort.

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  17. Forgivness is such hard and touchy subject. I think most people think they have forgave something and it comes back to bite us down the track :(

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  18. The idea of forgiveness is good. But the application itself is the hardest part. I must learn to practice this.

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  19. Forgiving isn't always easy, but it's almost always worth it!

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