Relationships: Cause and Effect

In our world, there is always something that has an effect or influence on something else. Some call it “cause and effect”. Others call it the “domino effect”. At the end of the day, everything has a pull on something else.

Now, it took me time and experiences to learn this. From my having a rough morning leading to me going off on a classmate to my not studying regularly resulting to having to cram for a test the night before, various small things in my life showed me this.

However, the greatest thing that proved this to me was witnessing connections I had with others affect other relationships in my life.

My having issues with and disrespecting my mom lead to others not wanting to deal with me. My not being on the best terms with my father led me to thirst, and I do me thirst, for a boyfriend.

I wanted to have a “man” so bad a guy smiling at me made me wonder if he’d be the one. It is only the grace of God that I still have my virtue.

The funniest thing is, as much as these situations showed me the power of relationships they still are not at the top of my list.

When I look at every relationship that I have had and the effect it has had on other things in my life, the one that is the most powerful is my relationship with God.

Now, I know some of you may not have expected me to go there, but think about it. Would it not make sense for your dealings with the creator of the universe to have an impact on what happens to you in it?

When I look back at my communication and attitude towards my parents, it was at one of the rawest levels ever when I was not at a good place with God. Because I felt God owed me something since I was not getting what I wanted I took it out on my parents.

It was basically like being a brat, but on another level.

It was not until I dealt with bitterness and other issues I had with contentment, which I discussed in my first blog post, that other areas in my life began to get back in order.

As it says in Matthew 6:33, “Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need.” ‭(‭NLT‬‬) He must come first.

So, if you are seeing issues in other relationships in your life, it may be wise to check your dealings with God. He is the foundation, and if that is not sturdy, the rest of the building will begin to crumble.

Comments

  1. It sounds like you have come to learn a lot - sometimes I think we have to go through things to learn and grow - no matter how painful.

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  2. I do agree with the domino effect, in life we have to remember that everything we do really does come back to us and as the saying goes "What we see in others exists in us" so I am super mindful when going on my day to day life.

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  3. Definitely something that needs to be left in God’s capable hands. I am so thankful I trusted Him to bring my husband along at the right time. I couldn’t be happier!

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  4. Sometimes you have to go through the fire. Good post

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  5. I find that I tend to attract the right people when I am in a good head space, so keeping up positive with a healthy diet and exercise has also helped me to have better relationships and be a happier person.

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  6. We all grow up at one point and realize we were like this. As a parent, I forgive my kids as they are just learning.

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  7. It is interesting how our upbringing really affects us later in life. I can see it in a lot of people.. I can see it in myself too. Good relationships and communication skills do take work.

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  8. I'm glad you found a way to help when you are struggling. I am not religious, so I just try to focus on the positives when I am upset.

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  9. I'm not religious so I have a slightly different viewpoint however, I do agree that every action we take has an influence on something. It's so important to build good relationships and project positivity out to the world. It's also important not to beat ourselves up for our actions when they were younger. They helped shape us into who we are today but they do not define us.

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  10. I've realized that when things aren't right in my marriage, I need to take a step back and evaluate it. I realize then that I've been doing things the way that I want and not the way that would please God.

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  11. Such a beautiful writings and I really enjoyed every minute that I read this. I do believe and have faith that God is with us in every seconds, minutes, hours, days, weeks, months and years of our lives. I also believe that if seek His kingdom first He will showers you with all of your needs.

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  12. Well said. Often the anger and resentment we feel towards another is misplaced. A projection onto others for the same feelings we have towards not being at peace with ourselves.

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  13. This is inspiring, it is good to know that you found a good relationship with God. I myself always put God first in what I do, from then I know things will be ok.

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  14. Wow, this post is really inspiring. I totally feel you as I have gone through similar when I was younger. Sometimes you just have to fail first and learn by your mistakes. Keep going and never give up!

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  15. Definitely agree with you. It's good to have a relationship with God for He can help and guide you.

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  16. AS they say no pain no gain. I think this is a great way for all of us to learn and grow

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  17. I am on this journey right now. Last year I was on my lowest low when my relationship with ex ended and my relationship with my mom soured. I turned to God because I have no one to turn to and it made me open my eyes to his goodness and to the this I fail to see. Just this month I reconciled with my mom and my heart forgave my ex. I was the best feeling ever.

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  18. It sounds like you've learned a lot about relationships. My parents were distant when I was young, so I looked for people who were demonstrative in their feelings. It worked out well for me, but I can see how it could have been a problem were I looking for love in the wrong places.

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  19. I agree. It's like action and reaction as well as consequences to whatever we do or decide upon. You are so right about our connection with God. I am a Christian, but somehow, I do not have a healthy relationship with God. It's almost always one-sided, like me always asking for something from God. There is a need for me to cultivate a better relationship with Him.

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  20. God is the center of my very being. I can see how I need to let Him guide my relationships, after all He created all of us and knows us better than we know ourselves.

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  21. I believe it too that many things in life are interdependent whether we accept it or not. God is the supreme power.

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  22. It’s so important to be in a good head space when it comes to relationships. Things will happen exactly like they are supposed to.

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  23. I am loving this post so much. God is my foundation and I also believe that He is our provider.

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  24. That is a very interesting outlook. I always say that you have to stop looking for relationships and work on yourself. Then your perfect relationship will show up...

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  25. This is so true. You need to be able to get away from the bitterness and resentment if you want to move forward in your life. And getting right with God is the best way.

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  26. Amen! God is the only way! He has helped me out in every single way of my life!

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  27. I agree with you. I know it's not easy to be in a relationship broken. So I decided to build my foundation of faith before anything else.

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  28. I do believe in Domino effect. Every action has an equal and opposite reaction. But having faith and moving on with your life, is the most important life lesson to be learnt.

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  29. This is so true. I really believe that everything in this world has its own causes and effects. This post is filled with takeaways.

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  30. There will always be ups and downs in relationship. I think you need to love yourself first and Him, and the right time and guy will come to you.

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