Expectations: Things Aren't Always What They Seem

If you were to ask me one of the top things I have learned about myself it would be that I can have unrealistic expectations.

I know it may seem a little weird that I'm “coming at myself” right now, but you can't help others find their way if you're lying about some of your own obstacles.

From a very young age I had a very sweet, “fairy-tale” view of life. My parents were together back then & didn't let me see their fights, so I thought their marriage was perfect.

My dad was popular in our community & everyone loved me cause I was his cute, smart daughter, so I didn't deal much with bullying and such.

On top of it all I loved God and was told various times that He was going to use me.

Life was pretty much perfect cause it was all going my way.

I didn't know the true weight of the statements & prophecies about God using me. I expected for life to be easier because of that. Boy was I wrong.

If only I had looked at the numerous individuals who’d seen success in the natural and/or spiritual world. I would have seen that nothing comes easy, even when it is from the giver of all things.

Those who seem to have had “overnight success” have a history of a grind that would probably blow your mind. It's not overnight. It's long overdue.

Now, I'm not saying God owes us anything. What I am saying is sometimes when it seems like people are getting something out of nothing they're actually getting double for their trouble.

Look at Joseph. Some may have felt that he came out of nowhere, becoming Egypt's second in command. Little did they know he'd been through betrayal, slavery, & prison, (Genesis 37-41) and he most likely didn't expect it when he had shared the visions he had of his power. However, tests are a part of testimonies.

Life doesn't always give us what we expect and people's stories aren't always what we expect, but at the end of the day it's not about our expectations. It's about His plan, and that is always what is best.

So, know that you may face things that catch you off guard & remember that it is not in vain. Also, do your best to not assume that people are getting off easy in life cause they are a survivor. Look at you.

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  1. It's something I have to constantly remind myself. Expectations are not always reality. And I shouldn't be disappointed because things didn't go the way I thought they would.

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  2. It's important to remember that everything is part of God's Perfect Plan. He moves through us, and sometimes that means that others learn through our example, be it illness, poverty, financial trouble, or accidents that leave us debilitated. It's only through prayer and thought that we can understand how our lives can positively affect others.

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  3. Great points. I love your biblical example of Joseph. He had a hard life. Lately, I have been comparing myself with other bloggers who started the same time as me. They seem to be doing better than me. I read this person's blog and realized she had posted 150 more posts than me and has a marketing background. Yeah, she deserves to be rocking it. You can't compare because you don't know what other people do or have gone through to get to their success.

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  4. And abut our core values. Expectation are just a guidance. Let's follow our heart

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  5. Expectations can be really hurtful at times and at times they can be really helpful, depends on how we take them. They may guide us to achieving what we are expecting, and they may get us our heart broken.

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  6. The higher the expectation, the greater the disappointment. Try to let things go - and flow with it... it's better this way. xo, Suzanne

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  7. Expectations can be so hurtful at time. Whether you have them or people have them for you. But you lean your lessons each time

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  8. I think you learn stuff when you don't always get what is expected. I try to never have unrealistic expectations either.

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  9. A wonderful, realistic, and well written post. Many things are not as they seem, and are own expectations can be misguided at times. It is only through the experiences of life, which includes failures and faith, does it all come together. I love the way you put things into perspective. Thank you for sharing!

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  10. This is such a great reminder! I've been working really hard on my blog with little to show for it, so far. But then, when I take a look at my analytics, I see that my Pinterest is growing and that I have more page viewers each month than I had before. I feel like I've written similar things to people who have written the same thing or worse than I did and yet, they are making it off better than I am.

    But this isn't a competition. Blogging is something that I enjoy doing. If I can remember that, then my expectations are easier to reach.

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  11. I find that expectations lead to frustration. I like to use guidelines or goals instead. I also take it day by day.

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  12. This could not be more true. The more you set expectations, the more you are setting yourself up to be let down. And if you are going to set expectations, the lower they are, the better chance they have of being met!

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  13. I am all that religious but this has been a beautiful read. I get your point and I totally agree that it's not all about your expectations.

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  14. Expectations vs. reality is such a harsh concept to come to terms with. You need to set lofty goals, but also set realistic goals. I think that's what is most important.

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  15. What a wonderful post! This was eye-opening. I can have unrealistic expectations sometimes as well, its better to look at it both ways. Thanks for sharing!

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  16. This is so true. Trusting in God and knowing what is on the outside isn't necessarily what's going on is important. And God has a plan for us. It just may take time to reveal it.

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  17. PassportofawanderwomanSeptember 25, 2018 at 3:48 PM

    This is one of the best blogs I've read so far. Seriously unrealistic expectations can actually be a setback , be it in career, relationships, or anything. Be true to self and accept failure, because it's not failure if you work hard to change it.

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  18. Hard work certainly pays off, atleast that's what I believe!! We should not be expecting something without putting in the effort and as you rightly said, most of the success stories have lot behind them which we don't get to know everytime!

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  19. Life is a constant struggle for everybody. I believe in the principle of reaping and sowing. If we sow hard work, we reap what is due. So, I work hard and trust in God's grace as well.

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  20. I try to not have expectations and just let things happen. It's not always easy but things happen for a reason, and sometimes its beyond our control We need to work hard and be good people, and the rest will fall into place.

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  21. I believe God does have a plan for us but he also is often working behind the scenes. I'm sorry if you've encountered some hard experiences. I'm still processing how I should live and serve my family and community as an adult.

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  22. Sad to know that you have had some bad experiences but I believe that whatever is happen in our life is for our betterment. We just need to believe on His mercy. Great post.

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  23. You are so right that overnight success is not common. Success takes a lot of hard work and patience, but it is possible if you just keep at it!

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  24. Things won't always happen the way we want them to. But there God has a greater plan for us plus we need to work on it :)

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  25. i couldn't agree more. it's best to manage our expectations to avoid disappointments or unnecessary stress

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