In life, various things happen. Some of it is good & some of it is bad, and of course it is all tied to someone’s decision. From mistakes to victories, life is full of cause-and-effect, and these events and struggles can leave chains on us that can truly take control.
I'll use myself for example. Due to various things that people I trusted & looked up to had done & the effect that it had on me I became very bitter. Even though I claimed to follow God I struggled with one of His most well-known commands.
This lead to chains of frustration, low self-esteem, dishonor, & the list went on and on.
It was not until about 3 years ago that I truly began to break those chains with three steps: acknowledgement, understanding, and humility.
First off, I had to be honest about the fact that these things were still bothering me.
You know how it is. You start telling yourself that it does not matter and they are nothing. Then you start talking about it to other people, telling them about your sorrows. Next thing you know if the person walks in the room the whole mood changes.
Before you know it the person that hurt you the most has you in the palm of their hand.
That is why my touching on this was not only freeing, but necessary.
Next, I had to put my pride aside and realize that no one is perfect. We all make mistakes purposefully and accidentally, & no matter how angry I got that fact was not going to go away.
Finally, I had to take a shot of humility because in the end my issue truly was not with them. It was with God.
Now, I know you're probably looking at your screen right now wondering what I'm talking about, & I understand your shock. So, let me break it down like my spiritual family & the book, Total Forgiveness by R.T. Kendall, broke it down to me.
When we're angry at someone else we feel that our frustration is with them. However, in the end we are really taking up issue with the person who's truly in control.
For instance, when a restaurant has a product you love & they raise the price you may show frustration to the cashier, but your issue is really with the franchise owner.
In life, even though we all make our own decisions, God is in control. So, our anger with others honestly is rooted in an ought against the Almighty God.
Things such as this showed me that I was not truly walking in what I proclaimed to believe. I was ignoring scriptures such as, “Make allowance for each other’s faults, and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others," Colossians 3:13, NLT) as if I knew better.
I was not considering the fact that the same way they made mistakes so do I. All I wanted was for them to pay.
I didn’t think about the fact that if we all paid for all of the errors we made would any of us be able to afford the price…
In the end, my striving to let go of the past pressed me to move forth, and even though we may feel it is not easy it is definitely worth it.
So, I ask you, do you want to hang on to something & stay bound or let it go & become free. You have to decide if you want to unlock those chains and forgiveness is the key.