Motives: Spoiled & Sanctified? (Pt. 1)

According to spoil means to, “to impair the quality or effect of,” or, “to pamper excessively.”

Growing up, I’ve heard this word used in various ways. From spoiled food to spoiled children. Spoiled politicians & spoiled students. Spoiled spouses and even spoiled friends. However, I’ve never heard anyone discuss spoiled believers or as I like to call them, “Spoiled & Sanctified”.

Now, you may be wondering, “What in the world are you talking about?,” and I understand. So, let me break it down for you. defines being Christian as, “exhibiting a spirit proper to a follower of Jesus Christ; Christlike”.

This means showing all of the fruit of the Spirit: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. (See Galatians 5:22)


We love to talk about this Scripture as believers, but one of the fruit tends to not get the same amount of conversation as the others: PATIENCE. 

That’s right. The art of waiting. Trusting that God, OUR FATHER, will do what He said.

Now, I’m not a mother, but I’ve seen my fair share of children over the years, and one of the main things they have to be taught is how TO WAIT. 

We’ve all seen it. A child sees something they want in the grocery store & the parent buys it, but the child can’t wait until they get home. They want it now. So, they start yelling & screaming. Crying and pouting saying, “No! I want it now!”

Thankfully most parents train their child or children out of that before they get older, so they are taught how to wait, for things in the natural, but my question is this. Do we teach ourselves how to do that in the spiritual?

I don’t know about you, but I have caught myself many a time talking to God crying, whining, even pouting because God had not yet moved on my behalf. 

Now, I told myself that it was “spending time with God”, but honestly it was simply my complaining about what had yet to receive, not even thinking about the fact that as our All-Knowing Father he knows what I need and WHEN I NEED IT.

Also, if I was serving Him for the right reasons, my desire for my wishes would not overpower my thankfulness for Him supplying all my needs.

See, I had to be honest with myself & admit that I’d become a “spiritual gold digger”, using God for His benefits, pushing aside what I needed to sacrifice, but it doesn’t work that way. You can’t have one without the other. Plus, God is no fool. He can see where your true motives lie.

James 4:3 states, “You ask and do not receive, because you ask amiss, that you may spend it on your own pleasures.” (NKJV)

If your heart isn’t right, then you can’t handle it, and if you can’t handle it, God is not going to be lead to give it to you. It is just that simple. 

Now, I’m not trying to preach because I recently had to have this conversation w/ myself. What I am doing is having an honest conversation with every believer that is stagnant due to the state of their heart.

It’s time for us to do some examinations & check our motives because there’s no use in being spoiled and sanctified.

(Next week I will post part 2, dealing with how to come out of this place & mindset.)

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