If you could name the thing that God has helped you grow the most in what would it be? Some may say patience because they used to not be able to wait on His timing. Others may say forgiveness because they were not able to let things go for their own good. Me, I would probably say temperance because I used to be a living, breathing fire cracker.
Anyone who knows me knows what I am talking about. There was a time in my life where if you looked at me wrong I tried to turn into a heavyweight boxer, with my words that is.
I would say whatever came to my mind with no filter at all. You would think I was a lawyer trying a case in front of the supreme court because I brought out all of my weapons. There was nothing that could stop me.
Now I'm not gonna lie, it felt good. The essence of saying what I want and not being controlled by others was amazing...for those few moments. Then, the consequences kicked in. The stares started. The relationships disappeared. People stopped wanting to talk to me.
When all of the results of those few moments begin to kick in, I started to see that it may not have been as worth it as I thought it was.
You see, we always think that we must say whatever's on our mind when things are happening in the moment. We are concerned that if we don't say it then the opportunity will pass us bye and people will look at us as weak. However, one thing I have learned is that being able to hold your tongue actually makes you strong.
Someone being able to tell their emotions no & put what is more important first shows wisdom, control, and maturity in a way that an unnecessary comment ever could.
Proverbs 25:28 even states that, "A person without self-control is like a city with broken-down walls." (NLT)
If you want your city to continue to grow and strive you must continue to build up your walls because you don't want any enemy trying to sneak their way in.
So, do your best to practice temperance, no matter how hot others may make you, because you don't want to give so much energy to them that you burn out.